It's the Last Day of Your Life.
Who would you want to spend it with?
Sometimes, the simplest of questions can be the most difficult to answer. Especially if it’s a question that each and every single one of us without exception will face and must answer at some point in our life.
The answer is invariably somebody close to us, either in our family or intimate circle of friends. Someone who you love. Someone who has stood by your side during your darkest moments. Someone who you have shared indelible experiences with, both good and bad.
It is also someone you may not be spending enough time with.
The ironic truth is that we live inverse lives where we prioritize our attention and time in the exact opposite configuration to what we value. We do this is in multi-faceted ways and with such stark disregard to our hypocrisy that we would blush if we could only see ourselves.
Asking yourself who you’d want to see on your last day of life may jolt you into the realization that you are not spending enough time with that person right now.
Is that extra bonus money worth the time and attention away from the person? What about that promotion you’ve devoted yourself to attain? Is the person really too far away that you can’t travel to visit? Are you really too busy to take some time off to travel?
What we may feel is important today - the money, the job title, and all the other forms of achievement in the material world - will be things you would gladly trade so that you could be with that person on your last day in this reality.
Many will realize that even though they are lucky and can be with that person on their last day, they wish they could have spent more time with that person beforehand and regret not doing enough to make the time. They were too busy chasing meaningless carrots, accumulating temporary trophies, and spinning around in circles within the simulation to realize what really mattered, until it’s just too late.
Sadly, for many of us, time is unidirectional and there is no way to rewind the clock of life. Live according to what you truly value and don’t fall for the mind tricks of the material world.
So, whoever your answer is to the question of who you’d like to spend the last day of your life with is, go and meet that person as often as you can. Capture as much of the true meaning of life before it’s too late.
I can guarantee you that it’s not hiding somewhere in the office at work.
Hello Sang, thanks for your great work. I’m a single dad with a disabled child to care for. I lost my wife last year in a car accident. I was in deep grief for the huge lost I had to endure to this day. But I have to be strong for my kid. I don’t make enough money because I have to take care of my little kid helping him with every aspect of his life. I have watched your recent videos which inspired me to be kind and to be strong. You are a good force in the world purely wanting to help people. I want to learn from you and make a little more money for my kid. As a single father with a disabled child, life is hard. Please give me a chance to join your discord server which could permanently change me and my child’s life. I want to provide more for my boy. My discord nickname is riki027459. Please give me and my child a chance and you won’t regret it. Much much thanks!
Sang, Your work feels inclusive in a way that assumes everyone is you. And I actually believe that’s true. As a child, I lived that way. I wanted to cheer others on because I felt the collective would advance together. There wasn’t separation. When I moved to NYC at 15 to dance ballet, competition descended. That’s when I began to feel separate and “less than.” But that story isn’t true. The separation isn’t real. The collective doesn’t advance by one person winning. It advances when someone remembers we were never actually divided in the first place. Your inclusiveness is radical. It’s a return.
And somewhere, that fifteen-year-old in New York is realizing she was never “less than.” She was just temporarily auditioning for a story that was based on expressing a kind of pain and regret that the teachers and directors believed. I didn’t believe it but it wore away at me and because it had the monicker of NYCB attached to it I bought it.
And frankly, I think I’m ready for a rewrite and your whole attitude is inspiring. Thank you
Can’t wait to join your discord server soon